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Dating Q & A's* . . . Why should we wait until we're 16 before we date?
If you have any questions for our dating gurus or for other teens, email us here.
Erika asked the therapist:
Q: I've been in the church for almost all my life and now i'm
14. And one of the questions i always make myself ,is why
do we have to wait until we're 16 to date someone? What if
we are both from church? What do you say about long
distance relationships?
A: We'll wait to see what the therapist says and what visitors to The Spin
say, but in the New Era (Feb, 2001), someone asked a similar question. Here
are some answers from youth in 2001:
"Sometimes we don’t have answers to everything. When an angel asked Adam why he offered animal sacrifices, he replied, “I know not, save the Lord commanded me.” Heavenly Father has said, through His servants, that we shouldn’t date before 16. We should follow the example of Adam and have faith that what the Lord tells us is true."
John Wilson, 17
Rancho Cucamonga, California
"Remember, our elders and parents know about dating. They’ve been there, too. They know what they are talking about, so why not wait?"
Lena Smith, 13
Salem, Oregon
"The prophet has told us not to date until we are 16, and even then we should go in groups. We should want to follow his counsel and do what he asks us. It can be hard, but if we do it, it will be worth it."
Jameson Fife, 16
Cedar City, Utah
"Just like getting baptized at 8 and preparing when we’re 7, following the counsel of our leaders and waiting to date until 16 will give us time to prepare. We can use the time to set guidelines and make goals so that when we start dating we have a plan to avoid the potential hazards that dating presents."
Elder Michael Bonnici, 19
Utah Salt Lake City South Mission
"Waiting until 16 gives us time to grow and mature before taking on another challenge."
Lucero Sumner, 18
Missouri City, Texas
What do you think? What would you tell Erika?(Question above.)
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*Our "Dating Gurus" have dated hundreds of people and, therefore, are well-versed in the fun AND not-so-fun aspects of dating. Ask them anything--it might just change your life!
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What do you think?
Hug or What?
Shae asks:
Q:Once you get to the doorstep and you can't tell if the guy is going to kiss you or not... is it okay to just give him a hug and go inside on the fist date? That is if you think he is into you.
What do you think? What would you tell Shae?(Question above.)
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What do you think? Is it hard to mostly group date instead of single dating?
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Heather says:Yes it is harder to go on group dates
then single dates. for group dates u have to make the
time and place and activity work with everyones schudeule
and interests which can be extremely hard to do. but with
single dates u only have to worry about it working out for
u and the other person.
What do you think? What's a fun, easy (not too expensive) group date?
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What do you think? Should girls ask guys out?
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Mike from Maryland says:
As a guy in such a situation, I think not. Someone said to me a bit ago
that if the girl is asking the guy out, there is an underlying problem
in
the relationship. It is probably level of interest as ldsyouthspin puts
it. I do agree that the most shy of guys will ask a girl out, and if
that
guy does not ask a girl who he is interested in out, then he is not
ready
to date. Maybe girls enjoy being pursued a bit, and maybe I only speak
for
myself, but I don't. I'm not exactly into group dates yet, but I like
hanging out with a number of different girls, without bringing unneeded
stress and commitment into the relationship. It's been my personal
experience that such one-on-one commitments don't add anything except
perhaps some temptation to friendships, that in most cases either the
match or maturity will be lacking. I think the latter is often to
blame,
but I'm not trying to generalize beyond the experiences of my own, and
similar experiences of others. Maybe some guys like being asked out,
maybe
some enjoy being pursued, I know some are into commitment. But I think
I'm
pretty average joe on these opinions, and I don't identify with those
guys.
What do you think? Should a guy walk a girl to the door at the end of a date?
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What do you think? Should you only kiss someone you're serious about?
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