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Ask the Therapist
Thanks to all of the people who submitted questions for the therapists! Keep 'em coming. Email your questions here.
Also, thanks to Jason for answering the current round of questions! Jason is a licensed therapist, with a successful career at a large regional hospital. And, most importantly, he's just an all-around nice, down-to-earth guy!
I never have fun because I'm always worried about breaking the rules and not getting hurt. How do I have more fun without breaking the rules?
Your question is a good one. It sounds like you are doing really well focusing on the rules and doing what is right
but that you are not having fun. I would like you to consider times in your life that were really fun. I mean the most
fun of all. Were you breaking rules?
It looks like you are connecting breaking rules with having fun, and by focusing on what not to do, you are feeling like
you "can't have any treats" and so you don't feel happy. Fun is a function of being alive with other people and enjoying
the moment. With this definition you could have fun doing almost anything. Play with that and let us know how it goes!
How can I deal with popularity problems?
If you’re not popular, see yourself and others as Jesus does. Don’t compare yourself with others. Pray for good friends and be brave--but don’t seek for the glory of the world or the falseness thereof.
If you’re popular, turn all the credit to Heavenly Father. We do not make ourselves. Thank him for your talents, looks, friends, and then ask him every day "What can I do to serve thee with all these talents?"
How can I get along with my family better?
Do everything daily to have the Spirit and hold true thoughts in your mind. Try to see your family members in a true light; don’t insist on being right--consider "Might I be wrong?"
How can I help a friend with problems?
As mentioned above, do everything daily to have the Spirit and see them in a true light. Plus, see what their real needs are. Be brave to do what will help the person--not just what will please them.
How can I be someone people want to go out with?
First of all, pray for charity, don’t change your standards, and do take genuine interest in others. Much dating is done for "the game" and self-glory and this is not the most important type. Again, take genuine interest in others--for their sake. Remember names.
Also, pray for talents that will help you socially and have faith--see yourself as Heavenly Father does, not as your critical mind and mirror--and shine, shine, shine. You can also pray for dates!
Last of all, love others without expectations, always be grateful, and love God first and foremost. Trust in him always and do his will. Just imagine Joseph Smith going to your school. What would he be like and how would you act?
How can I be a missionary in Utah Valley?
Like Mosiah 18:9 says, "stand as witnesses of God at all times and in all things, and in all places the ye may be in." Here are a few simple suggestions:
Try to think broader than just influencing those in Utah Valley: pray daily for all the missionaries.
Prepare yourself with study and faith for opportunities the Lord will bless you with.
Don’t doubt and don’t fear.
See others as Jesus does and follow the Spirit.
Always know and believe that you can do much good.
Additional advice from Jason:
Be still (i.e., quiet in mind and body) and know that God is real. You can see why Satan is trying to keep us completely running and filled with noise! Jesus’s way is calm and peaceful. Stay in that frame of mind as much as possible.
*At LDSTeenScene.com, we use licensed therapists to answer your "Ask a Therapist" questions. However, we cannot be held liable for actions you or others may take based on our attempt to help. Be sure you get advice from a trusted parent, leader, and--of course--Heavenly Father before making big decisions in your life.
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